A week ago I had a lovely email from a lady called Kathy who lives in the US. Her husband Greg, recently had a Maxillectomy due to Cancer.
I firstly never thought that this site would really be found by anyone, not really, yet in three weeks I have had three people contact me - it may not seem like a lot, but actually, given the small amount of people who have a Maxillectomy in the world, I think it is pretty huge.
But this is an important post, as the email was written to me by Kathy, the wife of Greg - it is important to realise that those around you go through just as much as you do, of course they don't suffer the physical pain that you have but they equal it out on the emotional and mental stress they suffer propping us up daily, making sure that we feel like all is ok, even when it might not be. It may not seem that way at times, but believe me it is true!
I remember when I was diagnosed, I went on a roller coaster ride of emotions in the first few weeks. I even remember sitting around our dinner table, with my Wife and two children, listening to them chatting, thinking, you know this could go on without me, life could go on without me - I must admit, I felt very resentful towards them. It didn't last long, mainly because I could see that my wife was in tatters about my situation, which actually wasn't my situation at all, it was OURS.
The importance of loved ones around us when we need it is the whole point of being here I think. I have no doubt how much my family love me and for that I am very very lucky.
Cancer has done two things for me, that have been positive (yeah, it's done a whole host of negatives too):
1. I have made a few new friends from this - not the best way to meet new people, I don't recommend it to anyone!
2. It made me realise just how much I am loved and how much I love those around me.
Greg, although unfortunate to have Cancer, although unfortunate to have had a Maxillectomy, has Kathy, a woman who obviously loves him - and just knowing that may make Greg that little bit stronger and just that little bit more able to cope with things.
I'm thinking of of you Greg and I'm thinking of you too Kathy!